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How To Receive Thanks From Others As Well As You Give It

Giving Thanks Can Be Easy - http://bethsawickie.com/do-you-receive-thanks-as-well-as-you-give-it

In this podcast Beth shares inspiration to help you learn to receive thanks, gratitude and compliments from others as well as you give them to others.

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Begin Transcript:
Hi, I’m Beth from BethSawickie.com and I’d like to welcome  you to the Thriving After Life Kicks Your Butt Podcast. Where you’re inspired to take action towards feeling great, loving life and THRIVING! by being an active participant in your overall well-being – body, mind and soul.
Today I’d like to talk with you about receiving thanks, gratitude and compliments.
We can all give thanks, show gratitude and share compliments – that can be particularly easy to do.
(Note: Being grateful is part of what we go over in the “From Blah to Bliss” mini course and part of the 4-G’s of Feelin’ Good)
You can be thankful for a wonderful turkey dinner on Thanksgiving – a time here in the U.S. where we reflect on what we are thankful for.
Thankful for family and friends.
Thankful for kindness shown by a stranger.
Compliment someone on a job well done, a nice outfit, even a new haircut.
But what about RECEIVING thanks? What about that?
 Are you like I was? Where receiving thanks from someone else practically makes your stomach turn?
What the heck is that all about?
For me, there were several things…all of which revolved around self-worth.
– I didn’t like attention drawn to me.
– Deep down I guess I feltl not worthy of praise.
– I took being humble to an extreme where I ended up de-valuing myself.  A definition of humble “having or showing a modest or low estimate of one’s own importance.” That’s not too far off from de-valuing yourself or having low self-worth in my book.
– I’d even feel that their gratitude was not sincere and must be a joke. (now THAT is bad!)
Can you think of why you would deflect thanks?
When you think about it – deflecting thanks just doesn’t make sense.
Especially if you say that you WANT good things in your life.
You WANT things to be grateful for.
But then when good things come your way in the form of sincere gratitude you block it.
You put your hands up, up your defenses and block that bit of goodness from truly reaching you.
I have a vision of Wonder Woman (my FAVORITE super hero) crossing her wrists with the bracelets in front of her face to deflect an attack.
You don’t allow yourself to feel the good feelings, the love that comes along with sincere thanks.
 
So what can you do to stop deflecting thanks and truly receive it?
Deflecting thanks is a habit – an ingrained habit – that will take some mindfulness to change.
First, remind yourself that you are worthy of receiving thanks, gratitude and compliments.  Remind yourself often – make it your new mantra!
“I am worthy of love” – because any thanks/gratitude/compliment is a form of love flowing to you. And also say “I receive thanks, gratitude and compliments with an open heart”.
Head on over to the blog post for this podcast and download the free “affirmation transformation” cards for both of those affirmations – and there’s a video with each affirmation too.
Pay attention to what you do when some thanks, gratitude or a compliment comes your way.
Watch for that knee-jerk reaction of –
“oh it was nothing”, “I didn’t do anything”, or insert your favorite deflective statement here.
It will probably flow out of your mouth before you even realize what you’re saying.
Honestly, I STILL sometimes have that knee-jerk reaction – then afterwards I’m like “duh! why the heck didn’t you accept that thanks?”
When that happens – first – don’t beat yourself up about it.  Remember to be as kind to yourself as you would to anyone else.
Acknowledge that it’s your ingrained habit at work – and remind yourself to be more mindful next time.
Second, if the giver of the thanks is still nearby – you could let them know that you appreciate their thanks/gratitude/compliment.
“Hey so-and-so, you paid me a compliment a minute ago – I appreciate it and I want to say thank you.”
That’ll put a smile on both of your faces.
The key point here is to NOT beat yourself up for falling back into an old familiar pattern of deflecting thanks.
If you need a little bit more of a push to open your heart to receiving…. let’s re-frame this deflection problem this way….
Receiving thanks with an open heart is a gift to both the receiver AND the giver.
How would you like to give thanks to someone and have it deflected back?
How about a heart-felt gift that you give someone – then they don’t even open it, they just hand it back to you and say “no thank you”.
How would that make you (as a giver) feel?
Each time you deflect someones heart-felt thanks, gratitude or compliment you are, in essence, handing their still wrapped gift back to them.
Don’t hand back gifts – open them, cherish them and give a heart felt thank you.
If nothing else… remember this…
You are worthy of love – Open your heart to receiving it in all it’s forms – including thanks, gratitude and compliments.
Don’t forget to download your “affirmation transformation” cards and videos.
And sign up for the free “From Blah to Bliss” mini-course where you’ll experience the answer to the question…. “what would happen if you treated yourself just as well as you treat everyone else?”
I’d like to thank you for listening to the Thriving After Life Kicks Your Butt Podcast.
I’m choosing to feel great, love life & THRIVE and I hope you are too!

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What to do when giving makes you feel burned out http://bethsawickie.com/how-to-give-without-feeling-drained-burned-out-and-angry/

How To Give Without Feeling Drained, Burned Out and Angry

In this podcast Beth explains why giving can leave you feeling drained, burned out and maybe even angry. She shows you how you can give and truly feel GREAT! It’s not what you think!

Here is the .mp3 which you can download:

Begin transcript:

Hi, this is Beth Sawickie from BethSawickie.com and I’d like to welcome you to the Thriving After Life Kicks Your Butt Podcast. Where we get back to feeling great, loving life and thriving.

Today I want to talk to you about why giving leaves you feeling drained and it might even leave you feeling angry or pissed off.

You might not want to admit it because we are all supposed to give of ourselves and help others – right? And the more we give to others the more we are supposed to receive in return and the better we are supposed to feel.  But to be quite honest, if you’re like me, sometimes you’ve been in positions where you are giving and giving and giving and you just feel like crap. You feel depleted, you feel worn out, you feel used up.  Eventually you might feel pissed off because you are giving all this and why aren’t you getting it back?

Now – what I also want to explain to you is how you can feel great. Not just the surface thing of ‘look at me I’m doing a good deed’ thing – but really, truly feel great deep down in your soul.

I’m going to explain it to you using a little analogy here.

Think of yourself as a well.  You know like the wells that people go and they get fresh water out from? When I picture a well, I picture the older style wells that have – it’s built up with the rocks and it’s circular.

 

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Beth Sawickie is a survivor of depression and Bipolar II Disorder who has learned to THRIVE by making her mental, physical and spiritual health top priorities. Beth helps and inspires others get back to thriving after life has kicked their butt!

Beth’s Story: Getting Back to Thriving After Depression

In this podcast Beth shares her story of surviving depression and bipolar II disorder – and getting back to thriving!

Learn the 4-G’s of Feelin’ Good (Goin’, Greens, Givin’ & Gratitude) here.

Join Thriving fans on Facebook
Get the “Get Back on the Feel Good Train” eBook.

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Transcript:

 

Hi, I’m Beth Sawickie and I want to welcome you to the Thriving After Life Kicks Your Butt Podcast. I wanted to tell you a little bit about myself in this podcast: where I’ve been, where I’m at now and where I’m headed and how I can help you get back to thriving after life has kicked your butt. I want to see you get back to feeling great, loving life and thriving. It is possible.

So, a little bit about me, well, I’ve realized that my purpose is actually to thrive after depression and bipolar two disorder by making my mental, physical and spiritual health top priorities and I really want to inspire you to do the same. Now, it’s been a long time coming to get me to this point. Back when I was fifteen or so, I believe, is when my depression actually started, but it wasn’t until many, many years later – fifteen and over – that I actually found out what the problem was and got proper treatment and everything, so it’s been a crazy ride through that – tons of highs and tons of lows.

I’d say I was a sad clown on a crazy, run-away rollercoaster. If you know anybody who’s gone through this, you know it is very challenging and it’s not always that somebody comes out the other end and I’m very grateful that I have, so where I’m at now is: I’ve been good with consistently staying on my meds and seeing a therapist for a number of years now and life is good, but I realize that I needed to do something more – like therapy and meds were not the whole puzzle, they were just pieces of the puzzle – so, I realized that I needed to seriously take an active role – be an active participant – in my mental and physical health – and spiritual health too.

But, I didn’t know where to start, like I would go and be like, “Okay, I’m gunna do this crazy health routine. I’m going to go and juice for six months and, you know, I’m gunna go and, you know, and just do something for a long time,” and what would happen is that it just didn’t work well for me, so I realized that I was learning a lot of good self-help techniques and stuff, but what I needed were just simple strategies. I didn’t need something that was, like, an all-consuming crazy thing. I just need some simple things to help me stay feeling good and healthy.

So, what I started doing is what I call the Four Gs of Feeling Good: going, greens, give in and gratitude where every day I move my body somehow. Maybe it’s a walk or I go to yoga – I do something – and every day I strive to eat more greens and keep those in my diet – whether it’s juicing, smoothies or a salad – and every day giving and not just others, but also to myself. I’ve had to learn to really cut myself a break and be kind to myself and gratitude. Every day I sit down in the evening and I write down at least three things that I’m grateful for and you’d be amazed and just how doing that can really just bring things into perspective and open you up to the good in your life that you maybe didn’t realize was there. Even if you can’t think of what to write and you just write, you know, I’m grateful to be able to breathe in and out because that, in and of itself, is a miracle.

Now, through doing this I also was able to reconnect to myself and ignite passions that I didn’t know I had and when I started out I just was like, “Oh, I don’t know what I’m passionate about. I don’t know what I really enjoy doing so much,” but, through doing the Four G process, I discovered that I love photography – nature photography – and being creative with photographs and digital art, so that’s something that I post on my website from time to time are new creations of mine and I’ve also, you know, rediscovered my love of nature and gardening and, you know, it’s just been great, so now I’m really in a much better place. I’m much more balanced and happier and my life is pretty darn good.

I take care of myself – body, mind and soul – and I’m always looking for new ways to take care of myself in that way and I’ve made my self-care a priority. I’m definitely a work-in-progress and I’m always, you know, finding new ways to improve and, you know, as long as each day is better – a bit – than the one before or just as good I’m happy, so that’s my story and I’d love to hear yours, so come visit me at www.bethsawickie.com. That’s b-e-t-h-s-a-w-i-c-k-i-e.com and go get your copy of Get Back on the Feel Good Train: Simple Strategies to Help Get You Back on Track – it’s free on my website and it’ll help you get started with the Four Gs, which are really simple, and there’s also a free journal sheet included, so you can log them each day.

‘Kay, come see me on the web – bethsawickie.com – also Facebook – Beth Sawickie – and I’ll see you around. Thank-you for listening to the Thriving After Life Kicks Your Butt Podcast. I’m choosing to feel good, thrive and live life and I hope you are too.

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Beth Sawickie is a survivor of depression and Bipolar II Disorder who has learned to THRIVE by making her mental, physical and spiritual health top priorities. Beth helps and inspires others get back to thriving after life has kicked their butt! Read more about her here.

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Interview with Alanna Blundo – Changing the Perception of Mental Illness

Thriving Podcast Interview with Alanna Blundo http://bethsawickie.com/interview-alanna-blundo-changing-perception-mental-illnessAn inspiring interview with Alanna Blundo of  “Dream Big Expect Miracles” .

She shares her experience with depression and anxiety, what has worked for her and why she has started a campaign to change the perception of mental illness.

Alanna is from Melbourne, Australia. She believes in a more loving world and does what she can to support this transformation including teaching yoga, blogging, writing and starting her new campaign for mental health.

Connect with Alanna here:
www.DreamBigExpectMiracles.com
www.KarmaYogaCircle.com

Disclaimer:  None of the information in this podcast is a substitute for medical advise or psychiatric advice.  This podcast is meant to help inspire – not give medical advice.  You are urged to seek the help of a qualified medical professional if you believe that you or a loved one have depression, anxiety or any mental illness.

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